My mother died last night. She was a very private person, which is why I have not spoken publicly about what my family has been through in the last two years.
I was thinking to write about her now, because she was remarkable, but all I can come up with is grief laced with pain and obscenities. And she would not have wanted that. So I will only say this:
My heart is broken. And I may not be around much for awhile.
I’m so sorry. May your mother’s memory be a blessing to you now and always.
Jenny,
You have my sincerest condolences. Losing one’s mother is one of the most traumatic events we experience in life. I lost my mother 2 years before I lost my husband in 2012. Grief over the lost of someone so important in our lives cannot be explained – only understood from experiencing it.
With blessings to you and your family, Nancy
Oh Jennie I am so deeply sorry for your loss!! it is such a difficult thing to lose a parent. Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you. I am so sorry…..
Sending you my sympathies during this difficult time Jennie. Please take good care of yourself during this time. May you find strength in remembering the best moments with your mom, and may you find comfort from your loved ones, your closest friends and your internet family. Best wishes.
Jennie, Please accept my deepest condolences. I know you are heartbroken. Sending warm hugs, soft blankets, and pots of tea virtually.
Sweet Jennie –
I am so, so sorry. Thinking of you with great love. She seemed like quite a wonderful woman. I hadn’t realized this was happening.
Hugs and hugs and hugs.
I am very sorry for your loss.
I am so sorry. Sending good thoughts to you and your family, and gratitude for all you do. Jane
I am so sorry Jennie. Losing a mother is so difficult. I lost mine 4 years ago and was directed to the book “A Grief Observed” by CS Lewis. My thoughts are with you Jennie.
I am so sorry Jennie that you are suffering this loss. Please know how grateful I am for all that you do for our community. I pray your pain can be softened somehow.
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in 2009. I don’t know the circumstances but I can’t be anything but grateful that you have given so much to your community, and such a huge effort so recently, and I am sorry if we kept you from her. I am certain that your mother took/takes great pride in the woman and person you are, and all you do for others. My deepest sympathy to you.
I am so very sorry, Jennie.
Very very sorry about the death of your mother.. I hope that your memories of her will be a comfort to you. It can take a long time to heal, please give yourself that time…
Jennie, I am so sorry about the loss of your mother. It is a shocking experience. My father died last October and I am still at a loss. I wish you strength.
I am so very sorry to hear this Jennie.
My condolences on your loss! I can’t imagine.
I am very sorry for your loss, Jennie.
I am so sorry that you and your family have experienced such a tragic loss. I hope in the midst of your grief and anger that memories of your mother will help sustain you.
Sending deepest condolences for your loss, Jennie. You give so much of yourself to the patient community. I’m sure I’m not alone in thinking and praying for you during this difficult time.
Such sad news. My condolences, Jennie. Please take care.
I’m so sorry, Jennie. What an awful thing. Grief is hard enough to bear when you’re in good health. Please take very good care of yourself.
In at least one respect — and probably many more — your mother did a wonderful job. My condolences to you and your family.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Please accept my condolences, Jennie, and please take it easy on yourself.
I ran across an article that might be good for you and others about dealing with grief in your own way and trusting yourself.
http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2015/01/10/getting-grief-right/?_r=0
how well I understand this, it went straight to my heart. perhaps the understanding, concern of many will bring you solace. hearts mend, but like every other mending we carry the scars. mercifully they fade with time and we’re left with the sweetness, the warmth of our beloved. may you sense the caring coming your way today, it is huge.
I’m so very sorry for your loss, Jennie. Sending love and hugs to you and your family.
Jenny, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom in 2008 and I know from experience there is nothing I can say to ease your heavy heart. My mother was my greatest champion and the only one who was always there for me. She is ever with me. My prayers are for comfort in the days ahead and a time when you can celebrate your mother’s life without the overwhelming sense of loss.
Dear Jennie, I am so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs to you.
My sincere condolences for your loss, Jennie. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
I am so very sorry for your loss, Jennie.
It sounds like your mother was a great person who had a great life. Suffering is natural when you lose someone like that – we miss being around those people and the inspiration they provide but I hope you can celebrate what a great person she was and the life she lead at some point as well.
I would love to hear more about her on the blog – what she stood for – what kind of person she was – if you feel like doing that.
Keeping her in your heart will help…She’s really always there….
Good luck during this difficult time.
Cort
I write this through my own tears, Jenny. Your mother was indeed a remarkable woman and will be deeply missed. You and your family are in my prayers.
Jennie,
I am so very sorry for the passing of your Mother. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers tonight.
Susan
I am so sorry for your loss, Jennie, and send warm thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Take all the time you need to be with your family and other loved ones in this difficult time.
Dear Jennie,
So sorry to hear about your mother.
Please take all the time in the world to carry yourself safely through this period.
All my very best wishes to you.
Bob (Phoenix Rising member.)
Ouch Jenny,
Big hug and strength.
Condolences and sympathy to you upon the loss of your mother. It is very hard
to lose a parent. I lost my mother in 2012, and my father 30 years before that.
It takes a long time to grieve the loss of a parent.
So be good to yourself. Let yourself grieve however long and in whatever
way you need to do so. Do anything and everything to help yourself during
this very difficult period. Be very good to yourself.
So sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself.
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
I am so sorry…..no words need be spoken. Those who have lost understand the profound grief you feel.
Sending you big hugs, Jennie.
Very sorry for your loss, Jennie. My deepest condolences on the loss of your dear mother. No words of comfort can erase the pain and sadness – I know, too. We are all here for you in your grief.
So very sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts. xo
Dear Jennie,
I am so sorry for your loss. I do hope that over time the part of her that is you will serve as a source of comfort.
So sorry to hear this news, Jennie. So sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences to you and your loved ones.
Haven’t checked in on your blog for awhile. So sorry to learn of your mother’s death. It is a sad and difficult time and my thoughts are with you — and with the rest of your family. I hope that over time it will be comforting to know that so many others share your loss. I imagine she was remarkable — as is her daughter.
Kindest wishes, Jennie. I’m certain that all of us appreciative readers of your blog would like to send you a hug.
I am so sorry, Jennie. Please take good, gentle care of yourself.
Consider yourself hugged from afar.
Jennie,
I am so sorry for your loss. My own beloved mother died on November 1. I miss her terribly and cannot imagine the world without her. I understand the pain and sadness, and hope your mother’s memory and your family and friends can provide love and support as you grieve for her. Please know that I am here for you anytime you want to talk.
I am a frequent lurker and would like to extend my sympathies. The grief after my father died was one of the objectively most exhausting things I have ever experienced. Please, please be extra-gentle with yourself and give yourself at least four times as long as you think you’ll need to mourn.
this is so sad to hear. i’m really sorry. i’m thinking of you and your family. — warm wishes, rivka